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In response to: "I'm having an affair.." 473 days old
by mylipstick [Member]

First of the rules ever - never have romance at work, no matter with single or married guy. Just never. It makes your life complicated, putting you in stupid and embaracing situation when the truth came up, and might end in loosing the job. Is it worth ? great sex, feeling emotionally dizzy, and other butterflies.. pretty sweet, but as you see, men more…

In response to: "I'm having an affair.." 637 days old
by Ali [Visitor]

I have a major problem. This guy (my senior manager, but not my boss) and i have become really good friends. I have been helping him out with some personal problems (nothing to do with his family) but things have started to change. Weve been emailing and stuff outside of work, and then suddently he tells me that he loves me, will leave his wife and more…

In response to: "Happy New Year? Maybe.." 669 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

the fact that we don't hear from you, does it mean that all is well now, and that you don't need to write. Or do we need to worry? Just let us know you're ok more…

In response to: "Happy New Year? Maybe.." 677 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

maybe this will be a start for a new year. So maybe happy new year is the right thing to ask for you. All the best more…

In response to: "Happy New Year? Maybe.." 678 days old
by happylady1 [Member]

Good on you. Sounds to me like he might end up with no job, home or family. Keep your chin up doesn't matter what workmates think - anyway sounds like he's a nasty piece of work and I think people will be sympathetic to you. more…

In response to: "Don't know what to do" 678 days old
by rowtheboat [Member]

You DO have the guts to use it.

He says that to play mind games with you. He's pressing buttons. He's feeling desperate, so he's using what he feels he has - power over you.

That power is all in //your// head. And you //can// break that. Of course you're scared - who wouldn't be, in your situation? That's not a reason for more…

In response to: "Don't know what to do" 680 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

it's a new year, and you have not written for 2 weeks. How are you.
It's a new year, if things are still bad, get some courage, go to someone elder, let them help you
You are right, he is wrong
you have the evidence
you have nothing to lose
go use it
he will lose his job, at least
he will have to come craw more…

In response to: "Don't know what to do" 689 days old
by platypuspuspus [Member]

I don't know what anyone else who's been reading your posts thinks about this - but really hon, it's time to involve someone else, whether it's at the company or the police - it's harrassment and abuse... more…

In response to: "Dare to dare.." 692 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

Yeah, thats something i've had in my head a lot. All those magazines you read and those news stories you hear.. I'm just scared they won't take me seriously. That they'll think i'm just a stupid little girl or something. And if he found out i'd gone to the police.. thats far more scary then anything else.. more…

In response to: "Dare to dare.." 693 days old
by whoknows [Member]

You should follow through with what you've said: go to the Police and show them the threatening texts. Or go to his boss and show him. He is a real scumbag and a bully.

I'm so worried about you: and you need to photograph those bruises if anything happens again. I keep on thinking about all those women who were killed by their exes. I more…

In response to: "Dare to dare.." 694 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

Oh yeah.. thats how i see it, anyway. Prat. more…

In response to: "Dare to dare.." 694 days old
by mwnng [Member]

so he's carrying on with the mind games then? more…

In response to: "I'm having an affair.." 694 days old
by mwnng [Member]

you can do what you are thinking in many ways, he just thinks that he has power over you and is leading you on a bit cos he tyhinks he is much greater and could possibally get you fired for telling, but there is no way he can do that, people like this you just have to play them at their own game more…

In response to: "I walked out!" 697 days old
by wargrym07 [Member]

I'm so glad you were able to tell your friend, and not have to go through this alone anymore. That took real courage, and so did confronting him. Lets hope that will be enough and that you won't have to tell his family. So proud of you :) more…

In response to: "I walked out!" 698 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

You are brave! more…

In response to: "Last Part" 698 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

you are getting strong. Keep up! more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

4. I don’t know what your background, where you live, where you work and what’s your upbringing like. But in England nowadays, if someone think you a w*** for that, let it be. It is much more common and acceptable than you can imagine.

6. if he threaten to hit you again, this is a matter for the police. Men know that women are too af more…

In response to: "I walked out!" 698 days old
by happylady1 [Member]

I wouldn't stoop to his level by telling his family - I think you'll have called his bluff, time will tell but at least you've got that ammunition if needs be! more…

In response to: "I walked out!" 698 days old
by Rooticalee [Member]

Good for you. You've taken a really positive step here and you were brave to do that. Try and maintain the momentum. more…

In response to: "I walked out!" 698 days old
by Arnica [Member]

You probably won't have to go through with the threat of telling his family. Chances are you've got him worried enough to leave you be. You will look more dignified (and mature) if you can avoid telling his family. more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

1. I'm not thinking in that way.. the age gap and the fact he's my boss aren't my problems.. it was once i knew about his wife this started.
2. Yeah.. thats part of the reason i'm still staying..
3. Hah.. he fully consented.. he instigated it!
4. It would reflect badly on me though! No matter what, someone wil lthink 'what a wh*re more…

In response to: "Last Part" 698 days old
by whoknows [Member]

OMG, this man is scum! He has abused his position and is old enough to know better. HOWEVER, don't ever forget that you now have power: you could tell his wife. I'm sure you never would, but he doesn't know that. If he threatens anything or is nasty, remind him how bad his life could become if you were to blab. Obviously, you'd then lose your job, more…

In response to: "Last Part" 698 days old
by neonmeatdreams [Member]

Good for you. Keep it cold and impersonal don't let him wear you down. more…

In response to: "I'm having an affair.." 698 days old
by neonmeatdreams [Member]

I think anyone who could cheat on his wife and kids is a b*stard. He's lied to you from the start by not telling you he was married and he sounds like a manipulator. Give him the boot and if he does threaten your job then you've got the trump card cause you can threaten to tell his family. You can always get a new job but he can't replace a lost fa more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

I disagree. From what she describes, she must not play game. She should make a point and stop the relationship at once. more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by ranfuchs ^Pro

This sounds really bad. I have seen such work situations many times and let me share some of my experience, if its worth anything at all:

1. If you want to have an affair with your boss 20 years older than you are, it is your right. No one can tell you if it’s good or bad. This is just your decision
2. If you have a relationship more…

In response to: "I'm having an affair.." 698 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

hah, don't you think i've done the evil thinking moment? If i could actually DO what i'm thinking, that would help. more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

Lol! I think most want that >.>

Well, your 'ridiculous perspective' is fine :) more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

I tried that. Once. And he got really really aggressive.. hit me.. I know that was a fear reaction, but i'm scared of getting that again. more…

In response to: "Part 2.." 698 days old
by MiseryBusiness [Member]

Well.. he's made me think he's told other members of staff.. and their my friends and I know he would twist it so it's all me doing this. Then it's just.. the way he talks to me at work if i don't do as he wants. I hate being talked to like a piece of.. poo.. but he plays on that. And i get scared that i've really hurt him, go to his office, and he more…